Good afternoon EGF!
Its been so long since I last posted something new, and I feel as if I have left you under suspense for a very long time, and that's not good because you really come to a point where you start to wonder if I will ever come back.
But don't worry I am here, your sister is here!
Today I will be talking about the importance of confidence.
It's very hard to be confident without people thinking that you are arrogant and have so much self pride, and a big ego. But let me tell you something, people will always talk and its always up to you to make a change and let people see things differently.
People have flaws , but they should be confident with their flaws, for example, someone with small breasts for instance, when they see other people who are really gifted in that area they start to think that maybe they are not beautiful in their own way and they start to think twice about themselves which ends up leaving them with a low self esteem and lack of self confidence.This is a wrong concept and you shouldn't think that since this person has this and I do not have it they are better than you, that is a lie and I feel that its not fair to ever think that about yourself.
Rock those Flaws:
For you to be confident , rock those flaws of yours, if you are afraid to speak out, start a youtube channel whereby you speak to a invisible audience that will see you on a screen, their comments of encouragement will help you to become more confident with yourself.
I really admire Winnie Harlow because she rocks her Flaws with confidence, there are a few people like that we can meet in our lives , and everyone mostly has even toned skin , she doesn't have that , in a normal situation she should be grieving and hoping she looked like the rest of us, but she has decided that I need to rock this because this is the only life I am going to live, this is the chance I have , this is all I've got.
You see the importance of confidence?
Look at her,isn't she just beautiful?
Okay now, you may ask how do I become confident?
First of all you need to :
Forgive yourself: Yes , yes forgiveness, its a word that people do not like to use and hear much , but I feel that the first step to building self confidence is by forgiving yourself, because when you don't forgive yourself, you tend to hide yourself inside, you hide yourself in a shell and you don't see the bright side of things, you feel that people are going to judge you. When you forgive yourself you tend to forget what others have to say that is bad about you , and you start with yourself on a new page, this helps you to move on . If you feel that you cannot forgive yourself, pray about it , and God will really help you to forgive yourself.
Fake it until you make it!
Start off small, if you cannot talk to people, try have a conversation with a classmate you talk to once in a while, participate in group discussions, be social , make a blog where you talk about your views, the more you participate socially , you get to fake that confidence that you have, and slowly the fear of not being confident flees from you.
Take part in social activities in the community
By doing so you open up and in social groups you are forced to talk, if you are still in school join toast masters, drama, debate etc, this way you will be able to build the walls of confidence.
I believe that lack of confidence is caused by fear , and fear is in the mind , fear does not exist , and if you eliminate fear you will have confidence.
I hope you are motivated and helped.
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